On the fourth of October thirty-five years ago, I stood under a cloudless sky, looked into the eyes of my beloved, and spoke the words we had written together. “Today I covenant with you to continue to be your friend,” our vows began. I was holding the hands of my best friend, and thirty-five years later she is still my best friend.
As you would guess, our friendship has not been perfect all these years. There have been times when we tested one another’s limits. And, yes, we have each wondered on occasion, “What in the world could I have been thinking on October 4, 1975?”
But by God’s grace we have weathered life’s storms together and today we are still one another’s best friends.
In my experience friendship is a solid foundation on which to build a marriage.
For proof that thirty-five years is a long time, here’s the evidence:
Hey, it was the ’70s—long hair was the style back then.
We used to do a Marriage Enrichment Retreat every year at Northminster. Here’s my idea for reviving the tradition: we have a few couples in our church who have been married over 30 years. Let’s call them the village elders. I would love to hear them tell us how they have managed to stay married so long. I’m guessing that our younger couples would like to hear their advice and would benefit from it. What do you think?